Several of these "crying girls" have come forward years later as adults to discuss the trauma. In a 2023 interview, a woman known as "Mia" (pseudonym), whose 2019 crying video has 20 million views, recounted suicidal ideation. "I couldn't go to the grocery store without someone smirking at me," she said. "People recognized my face before they recognized my humanity. The person who filmed me was my best friend. She got 100,000 followers. I got a nervous breakdown."
This is where the psychology gets dark. There is a distinct dopamine hit in watching a "mean girl" get her comeuppance, even if the punishment (global humiliation) wildly exceeds the crime (teenage drama). The forced viral video serves as a digital pillory. In medieval times, a person caught lying was locked in stocks for the town to throw rotten vegetables. Today, the stocks are a TikTok stitch, and the vegetables are quote-retweets. Several of these "crying girls" have come forward
However, there is a counter-movement growing. Young users are now aggressively policing their own spaces. Comments sections on newly viral crying videos are increasingly flooded with pushback: "Put the phone down and give her a hug." "Delete this. You aren't the main character." "This says more about you than her." "People recognized my face before they recognized my
